Scandalous

Scandal and Being Mary Jane have taken America by storm. Women and men around the world are cheering for the complicated love life of the “other woman”. These women are the main characters in widely-watched television dramas. The creators of these shows developed women that some seem to love to hate. In all fairness, I don’t watch either of the shows based on personal preference but I’m smart enough to decipher the plot: a single woman falls in love with an unavailable man.

Millions of women around the world live these “stories” every single day. The only difference is that no one is cheering for them because they are a secret, an option, 2^nd place, a “sidechick”, and a mistress. 

These women have no audience, no script to follow, and no director to listen to. They have followed broken hearts into the arms of a man that already belonged to someone else. Even if these women knew these men before they were taken, they are left to deal with hearts that are attached to a man that didn’t choose to spend eternity with them. They are his best kept secret that’s dying to be a fixture in his life, that’s what’s scandalous.

Instead of being Mary Jane, they have no idea who they are. They have allowed their lives to revolve around the feelings of someone else’s man. When he’s upset with his wife, he gives her all the attention she wants but when he’s happy with his wife they don’t hear from him. These women are not celebrities, they’re broken! They have settled for a life in the shadows instead of stepping in the spotlight God has given them. Their lives are not displayed on television because they are ostracized.

No matter what the world attempts to sell us, being the other woman is not glamorous. It’s not a life that any little girl dreams about having. Most of these women feel stuck and are unable to progress in life because each day they are waiting to see if the man they love will leave his wife. There’s no amount of nice clothes, great vacation, or late night escapades that will mend the hole that’s left when you deal with the truth: he has a wife and it’s not you.

To my sisters, you don’t have live your life waiting for a man that has already made his choice. You can choose to serve a God that has already chosen you. You don’t have to settle for being a man’s secret when God went into those shadows to rescue you. You are not to be hidden; a man should love you enough to let the world know. Don’t settle for being an option when you were made to be a choice!

With All My Love, Mrs. Truscott