Why Did I Get Married?

We live in a society that researches and works hard to discover the next best thing. Instead of working out to get in shape, we run to the nearest plastic surgery clinic to get rid of those unwanted pounds. If our child is misbehaving we quickly go to get them diagnosed so that we can medicate their problems away. Marriage seems to have fallen in that quick-fix category to remedy the “problem” that single people have.

Genesis 2:18 The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."

When God saw that Adam didn’t have anyone to share his life with, He remedied that problem by creating Eve. He didn’t create a perfect woman or a quick-fix; He created a woman that would be a suitable helper (an asset) to Adam’s life. Eve’s existence in Adam’s life was to add to an area where he had unmet needs. Eve wasn’t created to replace God but to represent His undying love for Adam. Eve’s presence in Adam’s life was an extension of God’s love for the first man.
As a woman, a wife, our role can become muddled and twisted and skewed in the many hats we wear on a daily basis but our purpose in marriage is to demonstrate Christ to our husbands. Our role is to be his helper, like the Holy Spirit is here to help us. Not forcing him to do what we say but offering a gentle nudging with our kind words or gentle service. This role, this assignment to, being a wife isn’t to be taken lightly but to be approached through prayer, fasting, and obedience to God.

A lot of women want to be married but very few know the calling that comes with being a wife. It’s a divine appointment of display. Your household becomes your altar to God and your life becomes your sacrifice. You have decided that you will offer up thanksgiving through your marriage each and every day. It’s no easy task but no one ever said being the “crown jewel” would be.

Proverbs 12:4 A worthy wife is a crown for her husband, but a disgraceful woman is like cancer in his bones.

Why did you get married and if you’re single, why do you want to get married? Is it share his last name, share his bed, or share his money? Or is it to become more like Christ every second of your life? That’s what you truly sign up for when you get married. It’s allowing the other person you are sharing your life with to help form characteristics in you that look more like your Savior. Marriage teaches you how to really love, extend grace, turn the other cheek, be gentle, forgiving, and so much more.

Christ married a people who He knew wouldn’t have the ability to love Him back because He accepted His assignment. He didn’t expect anything in return because He knew there was nothing we could ever do to repay Him. Don’t make your marriage about what you can get in return because your spouse has already given you one of the greatest gifts you could ever receive: an opportunity to die to yourself daily and become more like the God you serve with every action you take and word you speak. Extending grace and mercy are most important when you marry someone flawed, who may not meet all the conditions you have placed on your “unconditional” love.

That’s the beauty of entering a covenant created by God. Where your spouse falls short, God gives you the grace to become more like Him. They aren’t perfect, which sets up the perfect opportunity to reflect Christ. You get married to become better with the person that would fit His purpose for your life. You get married to advance the mission God gave you. You get married to become more like Christ!

With All My Love,
Mrs. Truscott