Heavenly Father

Celebrating Father’s Day can be bittersweet for some. Those that have lost their fathers may have a hard time celebrating while experiencing the devastation of loss. They can’t get through the day without shedding painful tears. Even some never had a relationship with their father and they don’t have anything to celebrate. All of their memories of their father are ones they wish to forget, if they have any at all. While Mother’s Day brings warm and fuzzy feelings, many times Father’s Day can bring emotions from the opposite end of the spectrum.

Men and women, alike, have difficult times when it comes to relationships they have with their fathers. Fatherhood is not something that is innately inside of all men. Women have 42 weeks to bond with their unborn child before they ever lay eyes on them. The bond they share with their child is like nothing else, but fathers don’t get to partake in every aspect of that connection. For some men, they are the first example of a father they have ever seen. There is no training manual and some choose to abandon a job instead of making mistakes they can’t bear to live with. Lots of us were raised without a father in the home because they were so overwhelmed by fear that they fled. It’s not an excise, but it is a reality.

There are so many children and adults dealing with resentment, anger, depression, abandonment, and confusion because they were disappointed by the first man they loved. We spend a large amount of our lives trying to replace what we didn’t get as a child. Whether we use drugs, alcohol, women, men, or a combination of all them to soothe the pain, there is a gaping hole left by the absence of our fathers. God’s intention was for us to be reared by two parents and when that doesn’t happen, there are emotional and spiritual scars left that need to be healed.

Psalm 27:10 When my father and my mother forsake me, then the Lord will take me up.

But there is a Father in Heaven that will never leave or forsake you. He will clean your wounds and make you whole.  There is no hedge He will leave open and no gap He cannot fill. He has made the ultimate expression of love for you by sending His Only Son to the cross for you. He knew your dad didn’t have the capacity to love you in the way you needed so He filled in where your dad left a hole. When your father passed away, God knew who and what to send to show He hadn’t forgotten about you. Although it may have hurt for you to grow up without knowing your father, God knew that the relationship He would have with you has the power to mend your broken heart.

God is not a replacement for your father on earth because He loved you before anyone else did. He loved you enough to cover what they couldn’t. Don’t allow this day to bring your spirits down! Focus on what you do have and the grace God gave you to deal with what you didn’t. Some people don’t have the option to reconcile themselves to God because they have already passed away but don’t let the sun go down another day letting your anger keep you separated from the Lord. Leave what you didn’t have in your past so you can see what you do have.

With All My Love,

Mrs. Truscott