Follow the Leader **Repost**

This is a repost, in honor of tonight's Wives in Waiting webinar on submission. Enjoy!

Follow the Leader

Any good leader is made while they’re following, not out in front.  A successful relationship is when two people who have the ability to lead but choose to submit to one another and both follow God. Marriage, the way God intended, allows for a relationship to benefit from both the strengths and the weaknesses of a husband and wife. The same holds true for a successful business as well as a successful friendship. A lot of times, things end because there are too many chiefs and not enough Indians.

But that’s not the only issue; we can get led down a path we don’t want to go when we’re following the wrong person/people. In the world of social media, the amount of followers a person has seems to dictate their popularity or effectiveness. But having followers, on social media or in a relationship, isn’t important of you don’t know where you’re leading them.

We have to be careful to practice what we preach and make sure that what we’re preaching is the right thing. It’s difficult to submit to someone who isn’t submissive to anyone else. God’s word says in Ephesians 5:21-33

21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. 22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. 32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

When you follow a leader that isn’t able to follow, you’re following rebellion instead of submission. 

The greatest leader is also a great follower. Before you go to God about how your circle leads, seek His heart about how they follow Him. A lot of times we are taking advice and direction from someone who doesn’t know how to do the same. Ladies, learning from another woman who has a spirit of lawlessness will cause you to bring the same headache to your home. And promising to be with a man forever that has not promised to yield to God’s word will always find you outside of God’s will.

It’s easy to say that you want to be surrounded by good leaders, but if they aren’t good followers they are going to lead you to destruction. Everyone uses the above scripture to explain the role of a wife in a marriage but overlook how it applies to the role of a husband as well. When women are making their “list” of what they want in a husband we frequently see leader on the list but what about a follower. A man that knows how to follow God can lead your house. A woman who knows how to follow her husband has the ability to lead other women in the same. Submission to authority has to be a requirement for leadership in your life.

Love for you is evidence by receiving wise counsel on how to lead you.  No man/woman knows everything and a good leader is accountable to someone other than themselves. Pay attention to the fruit the tree is producing before you decide to plan the same one.

Don’t get led wrong because you aren’t paying attention to the fruit in someone’s life. Posting a cute saying on social media is not evidence of submission or great leadership. Observe the actions of a follower before you allow them to become a leader.

With All My Love,
Mrs. Truscott