Dating

There are a large amount of single women out there waiting for Mr. Right to show up and sweep them off their feet. Their dream is for to him to ride in driving his white Porsche, with his six-figure income, no children, rugged good looks, knowledge of the finer things in life, and a relationship with God that woos them into submission. They plan to find this man and he will love them just the way they are! For a few choice women this actually happens and they go on to live great lives. But for the vast majority of the world, this is a far cry from what we actually experience.

                But this is not due to the lack of eligible bachelors in the world. The reason that we do not hear more success stories of women meeting Mr. Right is because they are Mrs. Wrong for these men. The men who fit this list are looking for women that have the qualities on their list. When we have our ideal criteria, we set the standard for ourselves. If we are looking for these qualities in a mate, the only logical the resolution is to possess the same qualities and traits ourselves. But most of the time this does not happen because we are unwilling to examine why we formed the list in the 1^st place.

                How did we come up with this magic list? Did we talk to God about the characteristics our husband should have? With the list above, I don’t think so. When you apply these requirements on your future dates, you may actually be eliminating your future husband. This list is comprised of the qualities you have determined are satisfactory based on the past experiences you have had. You are either excluding people who resemble someone in a previous relationship or coveting the qualities you see in someone else’s mate. Imagine if your future husband is doing the same thing, would you be on his list of eligible bachelorettes.

                Open yourself up to explore the possibilities of men that are not on your list because your husband may be on your list of undesirables. I do not mean that you should not have an idea of what you desire your husband to be but make sure those desires have an eternal impact. One of the most important characteristics your mate should have is submissiveness to God. If He submits to God in His single life, he has already established the foundation for his marriage. Additionally, a man that will love you enough to push you closer to God is a man that should get your attention. If you plan to have children, you want an excellent role model for them.

                Don’t get so stuck on your list that you miss out on the man God has sent you. When God created you, He had someone specific in mind for you. The partnership that the two of you will create is unlike anything that you would accomplish with someone else. It is true that God’s permissive will allows us to do things that may be contrary to what He desires for us. But just like any other area of your life, I am sure that you want to live to the maximum potential that you can. If you can have a marriage that is more fulfilling and accomplishes so much more than the usual, wouldn’t you go after it. Don’t treat dating any different!

With All My Love,
Mrs. Truscott